The pleasure of NOT satisfying your desires
Fragments from imaginary dialogues
“Why do you desire x?”
“Because it’s pleasurable.”
“Pleasure is not a good guide for action, and neither is desire, because they can lead you astray.”
“Then what is a good guide for action?”
Ask yourself always:
Is this a beautiful desire / pleasure?
Is it good for you? (Does it interfere with other systems of your life?)
If the answer is no, ELIMINATE it.
Is it useful / meaningful?
Does it grow you?
Does it help you achieve your deeply important goals?
Does it beautifully fit into the larger tapestry of your masterpiece life?
If the answer to all these questions is no, ELIMINATE it.
I call these filter-questions.”
“Easier said than done.”
“You can cultivate desires, and you can cultivate pleasures.
An important aspect of the Art of (Playful) Living is cultivating the right desires / pleasures.
Cultivate the desire to not be a slave to your desires/pleasures, to have the Willpower to let go of ANYTHING that does not serve you.
You’ll discover the deep pleasure of being in control of yourself. It’s one of the most beautiful pleasures there are.”