When the light has been removed and my wife has fallen silent, aware of this habit that’s now mine, I examine my entire day and go back over what I’ve done and said, hiding nothing from myself, passing nothing by. For why should I fear any consequence from my mistakes, when I’m able to say, ‘See that you don’t do it again, but now I forgive you.’ (Seneca)
Fragments from imaginary dialogues
“Donal Robertson called this beautiful daily Stoic practice ‘learning cycles.’ His suggestion is, at the end of each day, to ask yourself three simple questions:
What did you do well?
What did you do badly?
What could you do differently?
I like to optimize everything, so I modified it a little to suit my needs:
Celebrate: What did you do well?
Understand: What did you do badly?
Optimize: What can you do differently?
Implement: What will you do differently?
The problem is, I can’t remember every detail at the end of the day.”
“This is good memory practice. However, you don’t need to remember every detail. Only the most important ones.
Think 80/20, always.
Think of it as data.”
“What’s the most important data at the end of the day?”
“I’ve identified two: failure-points, and decision-points.
There’s a quote I love from Ray Dalio’s book Principles: Life and Work:
I have found it helpful to think of my life as if it were a game in which each problem I face is a puzzle I need to solve. By solving the puzzle, I get a gem in the form of a principle that helps me avoid the same sort of problem in the future. Collecting these gems continually improves my decision making, so I am able to ascend to higher and higher levels of play in which the game gets harder and the stakes become ever greater.
All failure-points and decision-points hold a hidden gem within, which allows you to optimize the systems of your life – decision-making being one of the most important ones –, and ascend to higher and higher levels of the Game.”