Daily Rituals 2
Fragments from imaginary dialogues
“Viewed through the 80/20 (Pareto) filter, what’s the most important part of the day, the 20%?”
“The beginning and the end. Those are the parts you have most control over. They give the day structure and momentum. I like to think of them as the AM and PM Rituals.”
“What’s your process for creating them?”
“I start with two questions:
What do you want to think?
What do you want to do?
As concerns the thinking, there’s two aspects to it:
How do you want to think about the process in the moment? [as a means to make it meaningful]
The process as Ritual
The process as Meditation
What’s the first thing you want to think when you wake up in the morning?
What’s the first thing you want to think when you close your eyes at night?
You can have a (slightly different) little mantra for each.
I want to start and end the day with Love and Gratitude, so my mantra has the structure:
Good morning/night Dani
As concerns the doing, this has to do with creating sequences of specific actions. You can think of them as checklists. You can start by having them written down, until you internalize them.
Activation [energizing yourself]
– Mental: Writing / Journaling
– Physical: Moving
Priming [readying your Compass]
– Recommitment [Purpose, Goals]
Reflection on the day
– Writing / Journaling
Preparation for the next day
Priming [something for your mind to work on over night]
– MIQ (Most Important Question)
“Does the order in which you do them matter?”
Play with them, experiment.
Experiment with the content,
experiment with the sequencing,
experiment with the duration,
until you find the structure that works best for you.
One important aspect is to not just go through the motions.
How you do them is as important as doing them.
Strive to do them mindfully, to be totally present in the doing. That’s the purpose of thinking of the entire process as Meditation. You can even ask yourself at the end:
How present was I?“