On keeping impulses in check
Fragments from imaginary dialogues
“How can I keep this impulse in check?”
“First of all, create space [<link; medium length] for reflection by temporarily distancing yourself from the situation. Ideally, physically change location, or go for a walk.
Secondly, ask the meta-question:
Can I ask a better question?
The question you ask influences the kinds of answers you explore.
How can I keep this impulse in check?
How can I make keeping this impulse in check EFFORTLESS?
The two questions take you on very different paths.”
“How can I make it effortless?”
“Remember WHY you want to keep it in check.
If you have a compelling enough reason, you have your answer.
If don’t have a compelling reason, CREATE ONE. This means gaining clarity on who you want to be and what you want from life, and creating a deeply compelling vision for your life, one that will serve as your guide and as backdrop for your every action.”