On Learning and Clarity

Everything you do is controlled by two things: your beliefs and your values. (Tony Robbins)


Fragments from imaginary dialogues

“How can I master Connection – connecting with people?”

“Start by gaining clarity

Create a map of the practice.

Here’s a framework you can use:

  • Purpose
    • Why do you want to master Connection?
  • Beliefs
    • What are the most powerful beliefs you can install?
    • Identity
      • What are the most powerful identity-blocks you can install?
  • Values
    • What are the most powerful values you can adopt / focus on?
  • Obstacles
    • What are the biggest obstacles? (80/20)
    • What is the biggest obstacle? (One Thing)
  • Skills
    • What are the highest-leverage skills you can learn?

An important thing to understand is that beliefs and values are resources.

You can strategically install beliefs and values to achieve a specific end.

Become a collector of beliefs and values and integrate the most powerful ones.

“Can you give some examples?”

“Sure.

Beliefs

Everything in our lives comes from others. (John Cremer)

People are not their behaviors. (Tony Robbins, NLP)

Everybody is always doing the best they can with the resources available to them. But sometimes we find ourselves in unresourceful states. (Tony Robbins, NLP)

Every behavior has a positive intention. (NLP)

Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. (Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements)

Identity

  • Giver
  • Energizer
  • The Saint

“The Saint?”

“The Saint is a powerful archetypal model which can be evoked to guide behavior.”

“Something like asking ‘what would Jesus do?'”

“Precisely. You’re evoking an ideal model and, in the moment, measuring yourself against it.

Values

  • Love
    • Loving Kindness
    • Loving Empathy
    • Loving Compassion
    • Loving Generosity
  • Authenticity
    • Courage

…”

“What would you say are the biggest obstacles?”

The inner obstacles – emotions.

Obstacles

  • Fear
    • Vulnerability
    • Shame
    • Embarrassment

And so on.

The map doesn’t have to be perfect. You’ll be constantly refining it along the way.”

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About Dani Trusca

Life-Artist, Thinker, Mover (Traceur)

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