Learning by Doing
Fragments from imaginary dialogues
“I’ve been reading a lot about emotions to learn to deal with unpleasant ones.”
“To learn to deal with an emotion, you must actually feel the emotion.
This is a fundamental principle of Learning. I call it Learning by Doing.
To learn to do something you must actually do the thing.
No amount of reading can replace direct experience.”
“How does this apply to emotions?”
“Every time you experience an unpleasant emotion is an opportunity to practice.
The natural tendency when an unpleasant emotion arises is to distract yourself from it.
Prioritize it over anything else.
With Love, Compassion and Curiosity, give it your full attention. Immerse yourself in it. Allow yourself to fully experience it.
Turn every unpleasant emotion into a meditation.
This way, every unpleasant emotion becomes a deliberate rep(etition). The more reps you put in, the better you’ll get at it.
The natural tendency when you anticipate an unpleasant emotion is avoidance of the thing that triggers it.
Deliberately move toward triggers to create opportunities to practice.”