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On Thoughts and Beauty

Fragments from imaginary dialogues

Thoughts are a beautiful thing.”

“Some of them.”

“I mean thoughts in what they are. Their ‘substance‘, so to speak.
In terms of content, yes, some do not seem to be of any use.”

“‘Seem‘?”

“I like to make a distinction between resourceful/creative and unresourceful thoughts. And I like to think of the latter as (part of) the Inner Obstacle.

Obstacles are fundamental to our growth. Every unresourceful thought is a Beautiful Opportunity for PRACTICE.

“What’s the Practice?”

“Thoughts can be thoughts of as ‘micro-stories‘.

Unresourceful ones can greatly impact your state of mind if you believe them. Their usefulness lies in the opportunity to practice Meta-Awareness, and Letting go.

The first step is NOTICING them, which requires that you take a meta-perspective.

Make it a habit to ask yourself often,

Is this thought-story resourceful or unresourceful?

If not, appreciate its (substantive) beauty, and let it go.”

Essentialist

Fragments from imaginary dialogues

I’ve given up Spellweaver.

Really? How come? I thought you loved the game.

I do. I still think it’s a beautiful (collectible) card game. It engaged me both mentally and creatively. It was a difficult decision, but I’ve decided to focus exclusively on what’s essential.

Can’t you juggle both?

Afraid not, for a couple of reasons.

Firstly, it’s the opportunity cost: the time spent playing Spellweaver means time not spent doing something else. I’ve spent a few hundred hours playing it. Add to that the hours spent with it while not playing (evaluating cards, making strategies, conceiving decks, writing on the game’s forum, watching the games of better players to learn from them) and you get a humongous amount of time.

Secondly, it frees up mental space. This is not one of those games you think about only while playing them. I was constantly engaged with it, even while not playing. This kind of engagement is wonderful, but I’d rather save it for what’s truly important.

Thirdly, it’s a commitment to changing my life.

Was it hard to let go?

Not as hard as I imagined it would be, though it still lingered in my mind for a while. I managed to let go completely the moment I realized it will always be a part of me. It’s a comforting thought.

And maybe a strategy you can use elsewhere.


P.S. This is a dialogue from two years ago, which marked a very important step on my Journey.