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On Meditation and Meaning

Fragments from imaginary dialogues

There are two aspects to the practice of meditation. One is about the mechanics of the practice – what to do, and how. The other aspect is about meaning. You can make the practice more powerful by making it meaningful.

How can I make meditation meaningful?

You’re essentially imbuing it with meaning and connecting it with your values. You’re weaving a personal story around it. Here’s a glimpse of my own personal story:

Meditation is Mental Training. You mind requires training just like your body does. On the Path of Mastery, meditation is a fundamental aspect of that training.

Meditation is Self-Awareness and Self-Knowledge. Meditation is a playful exploration of your inner world, and through that, a fundamental means of learning about yourself.

Meditation is Ritual. Meditation is a gateway into the universe of The Sacred.

Meditation is Self-Love. Meditation is a profound act of Self-Care and Self-Love, thus an expression of Love. The practice of meditation is the practice of Love.

Meditation is Peace and Joy. There’s a quote I love by Thich Nhat Hanh:

If you feel happy, peaceful, and joyful, you are practicing correctly. (Thick Nhat Hanh)

Meditation is the practice of coming home to yourself – a sacred Homecoming. Peace and Joy are the sign that you’ve arrived.

You can get inspiration from my story and shape your own.



Fragments from imaginary dialogues

“What do you mean by judgment?”

“Judgment is a kind of evaluation.

Reality is neutral. We view reality through a filter of meaning. Whenever we evaluate something as positive or negative, we project meaning on it.

Evaluation is interpretation.

Viewed in pragmatic terms, some interpretations are empowering, others disempowering. I call disempowering interpretations, judgment.”

“What is non-judgment?”

“Non-judgment is a practice.

It’s a self-awareness practicenoticing when you judge yourself and others. I call the process of directing attention to notice judgment, the lens of judgment. For me, using this lens was a revelation. I hadn’t realized how often I did it.

It’s also a self-love practice – lovingly breaking the unresourceful thought pattern by gently letting it go.”

Self-Love as Practice

If you loved yourself, truly and deeply, would you let yourself experience this? 

If you loved yourself, truly and deeply, what would you do? 

(Kamal Ravikant, Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It)

Fragments from imaginary dialogues

“Inspired by Kamal Ravikant, I created a mantra for myself that I repeat often:

I love you, Dani.
I love you, Dani-who-I-was.
I love you, Dani-who-I-will-be.”

“So you’re expressing Self-Love as self-talk.”


“Saying it is a useful practice. However, you can enrich the practice by showing it through your actions.

You show it through Self-Care, in how you take care of your Health and manage your Energy, in your Nutrition, Movement, and Recovery.

You show it through Self-Gratitude, in appreciating your beautiful BodyMind and never taking it for granted.

You show it through Self-Awareness, in how receptive you are to the signals of your BodyMind.

You show it through Self-Control, in not giving in to harmful impulses.

You show it through Self-Trust, by your degree of trust in the genius of your subconscious mind and in your BodyMind’s capacity to heal – by your ability to get out of your way and let your inner genius do its magic.”

“I often struggle in most of these aspects.”

Above all, you show it through Self-Kindness, Self-Compassion, and Unconditional Self-Acceptance in every struggle and in your most challenging moments.”

Loving Breath

Fragments from imaginary dialogues

“What is a loving breath?”

A breath imbued with Meaning.

We’ve talked a while ago about macro-meditation [<link; short read].” 

“I remember. Seeing your life as meditation.”


Just like in regular meditation you have a point of focus – an anchor – you keep returning to, in macro-meditation you have an anchor for your life which you keep returning to throughout the day.

For me the anchor is Love. 

Whenever I notice I lost sight of my anchor, I take a deep loving breath and a smile. I often follow it with a love mantra [<link; short read].”

Three expressions of Love

I Love x. – Love as directed feeling: eg I Love Life.

I Love. – Love as undirected feeling

I, Love. – Love as identity: I am Love.

Love Mantra

I love you Life. (Memento Mori)
I love you Day.
I love you Moment.

I love you Dani.
I love you Dani-who-I-was.
I love you Dani-who-I-willl-be.
I love you my beautiful BodyMind.

I love you my dear parents.
I love you my dear brother.

Viewed as a template [<link; medium read], the structure is “I love you x”. This is a modular mantra. You can add as many things as you wish and swap them around at will.

The highest-order practice 2

Fragments from imaginary dialogues

“What is your highest-order practice?”


Loving Play [<link; short read]
Loving Meditation
Loving Kindness
Loving Compassion
Loving Gratitude [<link; medium read]”


Fragments from imaginary dialogues

“Self-care as a model?”

“Think of what you mean by self-care, try to articulate it.” 

“Taking care of myself, of my body… health… I find it hard.”

“That is your mental model of it.

Unless you’ve spent some time reflecting on it, it’s likely something vague, unclear. By gaining clarity on it, you enrich (and beautify) your model. The clearer your model, the more clearly you can articulate it – and practice it.

For instance, you can think of Self-Care as an act of Self-Love.

Self-Care is Self-Love.

You’ve thus connected it to your central value. 

And you can expand from here by connecting it with other values:

Self-Care is Self-Awareness.
Self-Care is Health.
Self-Care is Movement.

By thinking of it as a Sacred Ritual, you connect it with the realm of the Sacred.

Self-Care is a Sacred Ritual.

By thinking of it as an aspect of the Beautiful Practice and gaining clarity on what each of these practices entails, you further enrich your model.

Self-Care is the Beautiful Practice.

Taken as a whole, this web of meaningful connections and practices is your refined model of Self-Care.

On Centering

The ancestor of every action is a thought. (Ralph Waldo Emerson)

Fragments from imaginary dialogues

“How can I optimize my centering practice?”

“You initiate and guide your practice with thoughts expressed as meaningful words – I call them word-thoughts

In attempting to optimize the process, you’re essentially asking:

When centering, what do I want to think?

You’re creating an optimal sequence of word-thoughts.”

“I have a tendency to overcomplicate it and create too long a sequence.”

“Make simplicity your mantra. Make the process three steps at most.

I call the first item of the sequence, the access-point. Make the access-point something deeply meaningful to you. Your highest value, your Center.

What is your Center?”


“That is your access-point.

Whenever you initiate the centering practice, think Love.

Let’s make it a three-step process.

What do you want the next two steps to be?”

“Breathing, and a body check.”

“So we have a sequence:

Body Check

This is the macro-sequence. Every item of the sequence can itself be a micro-sequence.

For instance, you can just breathe. But you can make it more powerful by smiling as you breathe and thinking ‘Peace’ –  the beautiful practice you’ve learned from Thich Nhat Hanh. 

Se we have a micro-sequence:

(Conscious) Breathing
– Smile
– Peace

What are the key aspects of the body check?”

“Noticing and adjusting my posture, noticing tension, accepting, and letting go.”

“So we have another micro-sequence:

Body Check
– Posture
– Tension
— Accept
— Let go

Visually, the process looks something like this:

Breathing, body check, posture and tension are essentially self-awareness practice.”

Still your waters

Every breath you take, every step you make, can be filled with peace, joy, and serenity. (Thich Nhat Hanh)

Still your waters. (Josh Waitzkin)

Fragments from imaginary dialogues

“How can I still my waters? How do you go from stormy waters to still waters?”

“When your waters are stormy, that’s the best time to practice. That’s the ultimate stress test for whatever technique you’re using.

The best technique I’ve found involves breathing and a mantra.

Stilling your waters = Deep Breathing + Mantra

The mantra is key to the process. Its purpose is to slow down and distract your mind.

“What mantra?”

“The mantra can be one meaningful word that you say with each breath. (eg Love)

Or it can be two meaningful words, one on the inhalation, the other other on the exhalation. (eg Peace, Joy)

Or it can be multiple meaningful words, one with each breath. (eg your central values)

Play around, experiment. Do it every time you need to still your mind. The measure of success is how quickly you manage to do it.

This is the core of the practice. However you can add a few more little things to make it more powerful.

You can add a smile with each exhalation. This relaxes the muscles of the face which helps you relax.

You can make it a practice of Self-Love and Active Love.
Express Love to yourself and your beautiful BodyMind.
Bring to mind a person that is dear to you, or someone you’ve learned something from, and send them Love.

You can associate the practice with one of your Heroes, and bring them to mind whenever you practice.”

“Who did you associate the practice with?”

“Thich Nhat Hanh.

His teachings and way of being deeply resonate with me. Whenever I think of him, I bring to mind the title of one of his books, and smile:

Peace is every step.

Only I’ve added another line to it:

Peace is every step.
Peace is every breath.