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Self-Care

Fragments from imaginary dialogues

“Self-care as a model?”

“Think of what you mean by self-care, try to articulate it.” 

“Taking care of myself, of my body… health… I find it hard.”

“That is your mental model of it.

Unless you’ve spent some time reflecting on it, it’s likely something vague, unclear. By gaining clarity on it, you enrich (and beautify) your model. The clearer your model, the more clearly you can articulate it – and practice it.

For instance, you can think of Self-Care as an act of Self-Love.

Self-Care is Self-Love.

You’ve thus connected it to your central value. 

And you can expand from here by connecting it with other values:

Self-Care is Self-Awareness.
Self-Care is Health.
Self-Care is Movement.

By thinking of it as a Sacred Ritual, you connect it with the realm of the Sacred.

Self-Care is a Sacred Ritual.

By thinking of it as an aspect of the Beautiful Practice and gaining clarity on what each of these practices entails, you further enrich your model.

Self-Care is the Beautiful Practice.

Taken as a whole, this web of meaningful connections and practices is your refined model of Self-Care.

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Fragments from imaginary dialogues

“What is your Beautiful Practice?”

“I journal on it often, trying to get to the essence of it. It’s been through so many iterations.

In its current form, I visualize it using two models:

Brian Johnson’s Big Three model – the three most important areas of one’s life:

Energy
Work
Love

Alan Watkins’s peak performance pyramid-model [<link; medium read]:

Thinking
Feeling
Physiology

People’s brilliance comes from thinking. (Josh Waitzkin)
Thinking is deeply influenced by emotional state.
Emotional state is deeply influenced by physiology.

One modification I made to Brian’s model is replacing Work with Play. 

My Work is my Play.

Energy
Play
Love

Love and Play are the central values of my life. I like to think of them as a twin value – Loving Play, or Playful Love. 

As for Alan’s model, I use it as a framework for visualizing the most important aspects of my Beautiful Practice.

My Beautiful Practice

Your One Word

There is One Word that defines who you are. One Word that connects all the things in your life that make you come alive. (Evan Carmichael)


Fragments from imaginary dialogues

“What is Your One Word?”

“It’s a beautiful idea I know from Evan Carmichael’s book with the same name. An extension of the One Thing mental model.

It’s basically the idea of condensing everything you stand for, your life philosophy and your Purpose – your reason for getting up in the morning, your Ikigai – into one word.

Evan makes the point that it’s not only useful for yourself – as a powerful mantra-word –, but also for communicating it to others. What’s inspiring for you can also inspire others.”

“What is your One Word?”

My One Word is Beautify.

I’ve had clues about it in my own writings for some time.

For instance:

‘How can I know when I’m on the Beautiful Path?’

You can SEE the breathtaking Beauty in the fabric of the everyday.

Or:

Such a beautiful day.

Every day is beautiful, you just can’t see it all the time.

Or:

Why are you doing x?

I’m expressing myself.

You’re thinking small.

Express yourself though your LIVING.
Make your WHOLE LIFE a Creative Act,
Make your WHOLE LIFE a Work of Art.

Or:

EVERYTHING is the Beautiful Game, EVERY SINGLE MOMENT.

I know, but I keep forgetting it.

This too is part of the Game.

Evan’s book was the catalyst that brought them all together.

Beautify

Notice Beauty. It’s everywhere around you, if your Heart is open.

Appreciate Beauty. See every instance of Beauty for the Gift that it is.

Create Beauty. Always, in all ways.

Now, and forever.

Make your life / today / this moment a work of art. [Levels of Magnification]

Live a creative life. (Robert Rodriguez)

Maximize each moment’s creative potential. (Josh Waitzkin)

Make an art of everything you do.
Always do your best.

Make a game of everything you do.

The word means all those things, and many many more.

My One Word

The Beautiful Practice 5

Whenever you start a practice, always spend a moment connecting with yourself. (Aadil Palkhivala)


Fragments from imaginary dialogues

“You know how during physical training you start with a warm-up and end with a warm-down. You can metaphorically apply this model to any aspect of the Beautiful Practice.”

“What do you mean?”

“You can start any activity with a pre-activity ritual (warm-up), and end it with a post-activity ritual (warm-down).”

“Can you give an example?”

“It might be something like this:

Pre-activity Ritual

Connecting with yourself (Conscious Breathing, Centering)

Priming
– Intention-Setting (Clear Goals)
Why-Priming [
<link; short read] (Memento, Remembering your Why)

Post-activity Ritual

Connecting with yourself

Reflection (Feedback, Optimization)

“Would you do this for even for mundane activities, like washing the dishes?”

The small things are the big things.

Anything you do is an opportunity for Practice. The rituals ensure that you make the most of it.”

The Beautiful Practice

Fragments from imaginary dialogues

“How can I find time to practice?”

You can practice something in every waking moment.

The Art lies in remembering to, discovering what, and constantly optimizing the process.”