Tag Archive | Tranquility

Metaphoric Thinking

Fragments from imaginary dialogues

“What does Tranquility feel like?”

Open (Open-MindedOpen-Hearted)

“Most are metaphorical.”

Metaphor is for us like water to the fish.

We think in metaphor without realizing it.

I call the capacity to see the metaphoric water and use it as a tool, metaphoric thinking.”


On practicing Tranquility

Angels can fly because they can take themselves lightly. (Gilbert Keith Chesterton)

Fragments from imaginary dialogues

“What are the key points in the practice of Tranquility?”

“Start by painting a vivid mental map of it using metaphors.

Peace (war model; peace is absence of war)
Stillness (water model; stillness is absence of turbulence)
Lightness (air model; lightness is absence of burden, which allows you to fly)
Home (safety, comfort, The Sacred)
Inner Sanctuary (safety, ritual, The Sacred)

Pick one or more based on how they make you feel.

The key points of the practice are Relaxation and Loving Gratitude [<link; medium read].

Relaxation has 3 components:

Conscious Deep Breathing

Slow down and be aware of your breathing. This activates the parasympathetic nervous system which has a calming effect.

Releasing Tension

Tension is created by resistance to what is. Releasing tension is the practice of Non-Resistance, and of releasing physical tension.

As you’re breathing, scan your body for tension.

let go/flow,
and as you feel the tension melting away, smile.


Wholeness is a sense of being enough and worthy just as you are. A sense that nothing is missing.

You might even repeat to yourself:

I am enough.
I am whole.
I am worthy.

As you go through this process, feel your Heart expand and open in Loving Gratitude.”

On Presence and Meaning

Fragments from imaginary dialogues

“How can I evolve my Presence practice?”

“One way is through Meaning.

Viewed as a means to an end, what is the ultimate end of it?”

Stillness / Tranquility / Peace.

“What’s the difference between them?”

“They’re different metaphoric-models expressing the same inner-state.”

“Get clear on what the state feels like, and keep the end in mind every time you practice Presence.”

Healing the Past

Fragments from imaginary dialogues

One of the many facets of the Art of (Playful) Living, and maybe the most important, is the relationship you have with yourself. I like to think of it as Connection. More specifically, connection with four aspects of yourself. In my case:

Dani-who-I-was (past)
Dani-who-I-am (present)
Dani-who-I-will-be (future)

I think of them in Romanian, my native language, because they are more powerful:

Dani-care-am-fost (past)
Dani-care-sunt (present)
Dani-care-voi-fi (future)

“Isn’t Dani-child the same as Dani-who-I-was?”

“No. Dani-child is always with me, the embodiment of Playfulness, Curiosity, and Creativity, the expression of what the ancient Greeks called ‘Entheos’, and what the ancient Romans called ‘Genius’, the Divine Within.

The connection with Dani-who-I-will-be can profoundly influence your actions in the present.

If you deeply FEEL the connection, and you connect this with your ultimate Purpose in this fleeting life of ours, you will never again engage in activities that may bring you harm (eg smoking).

But that’s not what I want to focus on now. What I want to focus on is the connection with Dani-who-I-was.

For a very long period of my life, the past felt like a burden. Not knowing how to deal with painful memories, I constantly and futilely tried to chase them away from my mind… but they’d always return. Like maybe most people, my coping mechanism was addiction (to video games, drinking, entertainment, etc).

Not anymore, and NEVER AGAIN.

I managed to completely and radically turn the relationship with my past upside down, where what used to bring pain, now is a source of only deep Joy. This is one of the most important accomplishments on my Journey so far.”

“How did you manage that?”

I learned to love myself unconditionally.

I’d heard of the importance of self-love many times before, but I didn’t know how to do it. Until one day I stumbled upon a video on YouTube by a guy called Aziz Gazipura. I liked it, I watched a few more of his videos, and decided to read one of his books, The Art of Extraordinary Confidence, which I did. There was one idea from that book that changed my life.”

“What was it?”

The PRACTICE of saying to myself: ‘I love you, Dani.’

When I first tried it, while looking at myself in the mirror, I got tears in my eyes. That’s when I realized how powerful this is.

It’s been a few years since then, and I’ve been doing that EVERY SINGLE DAY.

I start and end every day by saying it to myself, I do it every single time I look at myself in the mirror, every time I fail, every time I succeed, every time I think about the future, and every time I think about the past.

That’s how I healed the relationship with Dani-who-I-was and my past.

Every time I remembered an experience from the past, I would say to myself ‘I love you Dani‘. Every painful memory became a healing moment. And you know you’ve healed something when it no longer returns.

Instead of trying to avoid them, as I’d done in the past, I started to look for painful memories. And there were thousands of them.”

“You mean ‘hundreds‘?”

“You’re right, I’m exaggerating. But they did feel endless once.

This is yet another instance of compounding.

All these little instances of self-love add up until, seemingly out of the blue, thinking about the past brings only deep lasting Peace.

Only, it wasn’t out of the blue. It was the manifestation of the cumulative process that preceded it.”